Archive | June, 2016

What The Orlando Shootings Are Really About (In My Opinion)

14 Jun

So you can call this an act of terror, homophobia or blame it on islam. You can restrict the selling of guns (which I´m totally in favour of, don´t get me wrong), close the gates to foreigners (but mind you, this was a US citizen) or tell gay people to hide a little better (which is insane).

But wouldn´t it be a lot more effective to find a way to prevent people from feeling like killing others? A dramatic explosion of violence like this doesn´t just come out of the blue. Imagine all the anger and frustration that has been boiling under (and apparently above) the surface for years. Reading the papers, I get the idea that this man was someone completely out of touch with his own emotions. Someone who was immensely frustrated (I don´t know in what way, but it isn´t hard to guess, since it always comes down to the same),  but so completely unable to deal with all the negative emotions provoked by that frustration, that he became entirely engulfed by them.

So he projected all that anger and hate onto gay people. And he´s not the only one. Others project that anger onto foreigners, coloured people, women,… You know the stories.

Honestly, the root of the problem is not about gays or islam. It´s about frustrated, emotionally illiterate men who lack empathy and become a danger to society. In some societies they´re kept in check, but given half a chance, they´ll let slip the dogs of war, especially when they´re in a group. In other communities it´s them who rule, hence the institutionalised violence.

If we start teaching children today to become aware of their emotions and how to deal with them effectively, then within two generations this world will be the most peaceful place you´ve ever seen. Because someone who is aware of his frustrations and who tries to find constructive ways to deal with them, someone who is aware of his anger building up and who knows effective, peaceful ways to defuse it, will not grab a gun to make other people pay for his own rage.

But we can only teach our children and youngsters this when we know how to do it ourselves.